"respect" and "agree" vs "like" (and other ideal reaction options)

So far, I have used the button as a “me too” or “+1”, to avoid adding an unnecessary comment.

I’m not sure which verb I prefer. “Agree” is closer to my usage, but “Agrees” as a noun is a really awkward word. What about “Support”?

I am in favor of limiting the number of reactions, with a slightly different goal: discourage groupthink.

Discourse does a decent job of this by putting reactions at the bottom so people aren’t affected before reading the post. However, I’d still prefer to avoid having, in effect, a downvote button.

I think reactions work better as a way to avoid writing short, contentless replies. Others I could imagine being useful:

  • Acknowledge(d) — When I don’t want to take up space to let someone know I saw their comment.
    • Example of where I’d have used this.
  • Excite(d/ment) (:confetti_ball:) or Thank Appreciate (:heart:) — I have used these on github before in response to “this is now implemented”.
    • Example of where I’d have used this.
    • Second example, which I might also express Interest in or Respect for.
  • Interest(ed) — But maybe this overlaps with “Agree”
  • Confus(ed/ion) — But maybe this is something people should write out why they’re confused

Yeah, “agree” is closer to how I’d use the feature, unfortunately it was a bit awkward when trying to replace the text nodes. “Thank” sounds good though, and “support” could also work.

The world “respect” has a different usage to me, and I wouldn’t insert “respect” interchangeably with “agree” in the text nodes, e.g. one in normal and the other in hover state. However, I’ll leave it to others to decide what they would like displayed.

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As long as any critical response isn’t actually a downvote (doesn’t bury unpopular opinions), it’s not too bad when used fairly and respectfully.

I agree with the comments above: agree and support are better fit for the heart, maybe even “thanks”. And the noun isn’t an issue. It doesn’t have to be # nouns it can be verb: # or other constructions.

I like @smichel17’s list of desired responses (again, my dream would be these could be tags that anyone could vote-up effectively).

I like “respect” for various reasons but am fine with making it a wishlist item or at least secondary to “agree” or “support”.

EDIT: YAY, there’s a thumb’s up that says “agree” now! That’s way better than a heart and better than either symbol saying “like”.

I’ll add another one I’d like to see: tl;dr :stuck_out_tongue: (more seriously: a way to ask someone to be more concise).

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That seems sorta like “this isn’t flaggable, but still… request for editing, reason: concision”

A specific tl;dr would be informative (telling poster that others are noticing and not reading)

This thread is quite long and bikeshed-y, but convinced me that :heart: is better than :+1:


As for retort, it looks like it only allows emoji reactions; no text. Can we confirm/deny this?

The problem is the idea of forcing to choose one or the other. They are each better when they are better. My point all along is I want both and a couple others. If we have only one primary one, the heart is a worse choice.

As I put it in IRC:

  • I like heart, but I hate being forced to use it to express any sort of agree / like / support / respect
  • heart is more emotional but it’s often enough WRONG to be emotional and wrong to express a heart-type emotion
  • when Twitter switched to a heart, there was a real backlash because it truly changes the significance and meaning

I look forward to having that plugin discussed above so that we can use hearts, and we should encourage them whenever appropriate.

When I want to say “I agree” it’s often NOT with a heart, and the heart feels not only wrong often enough but it cheapens the sincerity of the symbol if you have to use it all the time in all these inappropriate ways.

Having a single option of either “like” / “love” etc. that is emotional feels awful. It feels like the system manipulating us into simplistic boxes. The tension is shitty. The option to express such emotions is great, but the value of “respect” or “agree” is that it allows concise communication while still allowing the emotional stuff to be used appropriately and retain its actual emotional meaning.

To reiterate: hearts on Twitter amplify miscommunication, people attack others for “hearting” posts that are seen as bad in some way when the hearting was actually a bookmarking or just an attempt at respect. The heart actually drives the emotional tribalist groupthink. Nobody is willing to give a heart to ideas they don’t like even when they desire to express “respect” in a challenging but respectful debate… This is about having the right tools for the right cases. All the arguments of the right one response are themselves wrong arguments in the first place.

Look at this right here. You’re more likely to want to “respect” what I’m writing. You might “agree”, but if you find something I’m saying troubling, you’ll feel it troubling to “heart” this. If I keep making this text longer and longer, you might still agree but be even less emotionally heartful about my excessive text…

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EDIT: damnit, moderator action of moving a reply from one topic to another does not maintain a link back! Shit.

The following was a reply I just moved from Discourse plugins to consider - #2 by smichel17 which now shows that there was a reply but only links generally to this topic and not to the exact reply. Looks like this moving of replies is somewhat buggy and needs improvement in the UI…

I’m happy to thumb’s-up agree to your comment. I would feel less comfortable or appropriate “hearting” (like/love even labeled “agree”) this. I do not feel emotional and empathic here, it’s just a plain informational post. I want to be able to actually express empathy elsewhere and not pollute everything with fake empathy.

This is why I mentioned this. If we get one primary reaction that gets text along with it and several other reactions that only get an icon, what icon and text do we want to be primary?

:+1: and :heart: both seem self-explanatory enough that they don’t need additional descriptive text. I can’t imagine communicating tl;dr without text, but it shouldn’t be our primary reaction (or is that okay? It looks like retort emojis appear higher up, so maybe it’s okay to separate this?).

Right now I think “respect” seems like the best choice for the option that gets text.

Maybe we’ll just have to use a “Confused” emoji or something and just let it be known that it means tl;dr.

We can and should request that retort plugin add some optional text meaning (or ideally: my favorite possibility, add support for arbitrary text separate from the icons).

That said, I think “agree” should be the one primary thing with all the retort icons secondary (and “respect” is now my second choice for primary, I’m convinced from above discussion about that). I don’t know that thumb’s-up is the best icon for the primary “agree” item, but it’s certainly better than a heart which I want to reserve for expressing that sort of emotion/empathy.

It seems to me that there’s not really a need to keep thumb’s up available for something other than “agree” so I vote to keep that as is.

Maybe we’ll just have to use a “Confused” emoji or something and just let it be known that it means tl;dr.

Yeah, whatever icon seems to be the best-fit there…

Opened ops issue for the retort plugin: https://git.snowdrift.coop/sd/ops/issues/8

The thumbs-up can be changed. It’s from Font Awesome, so if someone wants to look at options and suggest a different one, I can swap it if people really like a different one.

The handshake icons actually fit “agree” very well but have a different connotation than thumb’s-up. I think it’s best to just leave it as is with the latter in place.

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Okay, so:

  • Apparently, retort just brings up the same emoji list that we get by starting to type : here in a comment, it just breaks it into a reaction thing that doesn’t have to be in a new comment.
  • Since emojis have names at least, we can sort of use those along with the symbol to have some meaning
  • maybe we can edit the emojis or the names of them (or request such functionality)
  • maybe we set up a limited set of reactions that we want to emphasize
  • maybe we create some guide as to how we want our set of reactions to be used and interpreted

Along with those and tl;dr, I like the suggestion (got from Sam Harris) of: this changed my mind or similar reaction (as he says, it would be superb in general to have that used, emphasized, and such posts promoted in social media in general).

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Strongly agree. Having the whole emoji list for reactions (like gitlab) is overwhelming to me compared to a limited set (like github). According to the retort plugin, it is possible to limit emojis that appear.

I would like to be able to do this. It’s not currently easy to do (may be possible with difficulty).

Update: we have settled on

:+1: appreciate

Incidentally, the typically non-transitive definition of “appreciate” is to increase in value which fits with upvote, +1, etc. but the primary meaning is recognition of value, simply expressing thanks/gratitude/acknowledement. So, that makes it about the best and most neutral term.

In contrast: “like” and “love” only work naturally for positive posts, “agree” doesn’t work for posts like introductions or questions or for acknowledging things you don’t agree with, and “respect” was very close to appreciate but has stranger personal connotations and is too strong to use widely (and yet not respecting something feels worse than not appreciating).


Note: if any of the text or context around appreciation seems odd, post about it, and we can tweak the wording as needed.

We’ve also added the Retort plugin will be adding custom emojis soon to offer a set of other reactions beyond “appreciate”.

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5 posts were merged into an existing topic: Custom emojis (esp. as retort reactions)